The rules of dating texting
The person you’re texting doesn’t necessarily know you or your sense of humor.
So re-read, double-check, and be careful: “Your texts are stripped of tone and facial expressions—no matter how many emoticons you include,” says House.
“Just beware that too many emoticons can also be a turn-off,” she says.
“Definitely don't use more than one in a single text. It’s engaging, and there’s deeper insight about the person being revealed, which can lend to more lengthy phone or in-person conversation later, she explains.
Thirty-one percent of men and women met their last date online (as opposed to six percent in a bar), 34 percent of daters in their 20s expect a response to a text in under 10 minutes (!
), and far more emoji users went on a first date last year than those who never dropped a winky face on the object of their textual affection (52 percent versus 27 percent).
If you're stuck in traffic, let him know you're running late.
The stats speak for themselves: Friendly emoji users are way more likely to get out on real, live dates.
A smile or a wink helps the reader show you’re being light-hearted or flirty, both good text techniques and better than a “haha” or “lol,” which Steinberg says can be a total turn-off for some.
“One way to test the tone is to imagine that he is sending the text to you.
Say it out loud, minus voice inflections, and decide if it comes across as intended.” (You don't want to end up like one of these Online Dating Disasters That'll Make You Glad You're Single.)“Since more of the human connection is lost, I encourage singles to simply use texting less frequently than they might be inclined to,” says Steinberg.